Well… now we have a boy & a girl! This little Monster was born on Saturday, February 20 early in the morning. My pregnancy was so different than with our son… probably because he was a boy?! Anyway, I had A LOT of false labor this time (where I had NONE with Monkey). So I was constantly thinking, “This is it!” Monkey was born at 38 weeks… not Monster… he waited till 41 ½ weeks before making his appearance. Oi… it was so hard. Note to self: don’t expect the timing to be the same every time!
On February 19th at 5pm I was having painful contractions but I didn’t bother timing them because they were far apart & irregular & not getting any more intense… and I’d had this before so I didn’t get overly excited this time. We were at church so I was just sitting there, so at 5:30 I did start timing. I only got one time written down before I got called out because Monkey had a fever, so I held her through the rest of the service. I don’t think I even had any more contractions anyway. At 9pm Jesse & I were in bed & the contractions were painful… for 1.5 hours they were 5 minutes apart & I thought they might be getting more intense so I decided to get up. At 10pm I got up & started using my yoga ball… leaning over it on my knees. Contractions continued to intensify. Jesse was still sleeping & I decided to let him sleep since if this was it, he was going to be one busy dad for the next week or so. At 10:30pm I was pretty sure it was labor so I started laying out all the birth supplies on the kitchen table. Got the coffee station & snacks set up for people who would be here. Contractions became even more intense & were 2 minutes apart. Got Jesse up… called the midwife (Carrie). Carrie & Becky would come in 30 minutes.
At 11pm Carrie arrived. Contractions were too intense to talk through. I stayed on the ball until I got in the pool we set up in the living room. I was only feeling a slight urge to push. I drank some orange juice because I was feeling faint. At 1am I got in the pool… I was 9cm. The urge to push was getting stronger… and I was SCARED. I tore a little bit with Monkey and had to get a bunch of stitches. I was so nervous that it would happen again. Even though Carrie told me I could work with the urge to push, I still fought it. Somewhere in there I started feeling really nauseous & threw up that orange juice … from between contractions right through the next one. Ugh… that was awful. NOTE TO SELF: Don’t ever drink orange juice when in labor. During contractions & in between I was alert enough mentally this time to pray, read the titles of the worship songs playing on the TV, & concentrate on keeping my tones low or just blowing air. The contractions were further apart in the pool so I got more of a break between, but they were more intense.
At 1:30am Carrie said that the bag of waters was bulging enough that if I gave one hard push & it would break & the Monster would come really soon. I pushed, beyond the contraction a little, until it broke. The little Monster’s head flew forward & I felt it crown. My back started to hurt soooo bad. Carrie told me to just float in the water, so I let my hips rise & just float. The next pushes… SERIOUS pain! Ring of fire seemed more intense than with Monkey. There was also an awful stinging pain inside that when Carrie poked her finger in to check, ended up being the little Monster’s hand & fingernails scraping me on the way out. When she touched his hand, he grabbed her finger! During the delivery of his head I clung to Jesse’s arms behind me struggling to keep my tones low. I think I pushed about five times to deliver his head & one arm. When his head came I was finally able to release Jesse’s arms because that awful stinging pain from his hand was over. Then between that last head push & the next contraction I touched the little Monster’s head & face & little hand. It was precious. I could tell he had hair just like Monkey did. The next contraction I was holding his head & neck with my hands & I pushed & pushed & pushed until he finally popped out & I brought him up out of the water onto my chest. THAT was incredible! I got to catch him myself!
Shortly after the little Monster was born & we were out of the pool, Monkey (15 months old) woke up. Jesse brought her out to meet her little brother. She kept signing “Baby… baby… baby” and looking at him with the cutest little expressions on her face.
By 4am we were all back in bed for the rest of the night. Carrie & Becky were gone & would return in the morning to check on us.
I am so glad we chose to have our little Monster at home. It would have been free to have him at the hospital with Medicade, but then we would have been stuck in the hospital for however long & I wouldn’t have been able to catch him myself or birth in the water. I am sooo thankful we were at home. I was comfortable, it was peaceful, familiar & our Monkey could be there too to see her little brother when he was first born. I wouldn’t trade my homebirth for anything. We’ll do it again when #3 happens!! I also feel so strong & powerful after birthing naturally. I feel like I am the strongest woman in the world… like I can do anything! It’s an amazing empowering feeling.